“The husband is over his wife as the head is over the body. It isn’t a description of what ought to be; it just says what is. He is the head. He will be a good one or a bad one, depending; but if he isn’t the head, there isn’t any other. He is to be the lover, she the beloved. If he doesn’t initiate, she will wither of neglect. She cannot supply what only he can give. If the locomotive doesn’t pull, the train doesn’t move. He, then, is to love and cherish her. And he is to do it first, because he promised first. She must do it too, of course, but in her own way, as an answering voice, a counterpoint.”

Robert Farrar Capon, Bed and Board

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